“For the first time since leaving him 25 years ago, I feel like I am actually able to see it, not for what it was - a part of me, but to see it as something that is now my past,” says Jana. “I am no longer defined by the pain of this relationship. Today, I have allowed myself to be proud of the fact that at 52, I am wanting to get to the root of ‘the why.” In this chat, she and Lori talk about an emotionally abusive relationship that she was in, from the age of 18 to 28 years old. “It’s not important, about all the things he said to me, nor the number of times it went on. What is important is it happened.” Today Jana has found the courage to own the pain of her struggle with unhealthy relational patterns, emotional abuse and a lifetime of unworthiness, shame and lack of self esteem. It is raw. It is vulnerable. This is a story of becoming.